Word Police  

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[I thought about calling this column "Grammar Police" but it's really not grammar that holds a problem for Americans--it's how we use the words (or misuse them). Anyway, I've decided that instead of correcting every little error (which I am wont to do--but that makes people cringe and run away), I'll occasionally point out a particular peeve in the way that we speak. In this way, I get my rant out and don't offend my friends. I'll only address those issues that catch my eye (or ear) when they really hack me off. For the time being I'll leave punctuation to the puncuation police. If you would like to join in the conversation, well that's what the comment section is for. Just remember that I like to keep the place clean when making your comments. And now on to . . .]


Today's Rant: Everyday


In writing, Americans have become lazy. Take for instance the word "everyday." This is a good word. It's an adjective (that means it modifies a noun). It should be used correctly in describing an item or event:


He is wearing his everyday shirt. (There is nothing special about the shirt, it could be worn any or every day.)


or, Their everyday routine is to eat breakfast before leaving for work.


Notice that in both our examples today the word everyday explains the item or event. On the other hand I have found more and more Americans using the adjective "everyday" when they mean to say every day. The difference is that when we want to indicate a daily occurence that but are not using the adjectival rendering, we should use the two word phrase "every day."


I go to the mall every day.


She eats yogurt every day.


What a world of difference one little space can make. So when writing, dear reader, remember to add the space when you are not modifying a noun.

Tea Time!!!!  

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No, no . . . not tee time. I like golf as much as the next guy, but now we're talking Tea. While in Ukraine, I started drinking tea on occasion (when in Rome and all that). I didn't turn my back on coffee (the real man's drink), but I did develop an affinity for a cup 'o. What I found was the best "black tea" on the market--Lipton Yellow Label. A year into my discovery I learned a sad thing: You can't buy that in America. What would I do on furloughs? What happens if God decides to call me back to the 'States?


And then it happened. God called me back. I stashed one last fifty count box in the luggage and have been hoarding it these two and a half years. We've looked, we've searched, we've scoured. I've even gone in some of the health nut places with my blushing bride trying to find Yellow Label. But it's always been a no-go. Until just recently, that is.


Now you can get this smooth libation from one of the "partners" at Amazon.com. The one drawback is that the shipping shovels on a hefty tarriff. That's okay though, if you really like tea, it's worth the price. My bride ordered two 100 count boxes of the stuff and the shipping fee was just as much as both boxes combined! But I'm not complaining--I was almost out. And now, I don't have to be stingy with my precious tea. Get you some and try it. It'll relax you.

Journaling Chazown – Spiritual Gifts  

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[Again, you can find this post duplicated at Loom & Wheel Words.]




Following his pattern of developing ideas through questioning, Craig Groeschel asks three questions to help readers of Chazown begin finding their spiritual gifts. What is your passion? What is your impact? What is your secret belief? Each of the questions deals with the things that you do—the activity of your life.

First, what is it that you do with passion? What is it that you enjoy doing or suspect that you might enjoy doing? I find that communication is the thing that I have a passion about. I look for ways to communicate, to say the right word at the right time. I find that I have the same desire in my writing—to use the best word to communicate the best possible message at the perfect time. I like to think that once in awhile, I hit the mark.

What, then, do you do that seems to have a significant impact on the world around you? This is a tough question for me because as my mother has often observed, I am my own biggest critic. I’ve discovered that while sometimes my words do have the impact that I desire, it is more often time that impacts those around me. People seem to be more aware that I have spent time with them than they are to remember anything I say. This is especially true during times of crisis. Few if any people remember the words said in a prayer when they are going into a time of surgery, but most remember that you were there and that you offered a prayer.

Finally, what is it that you secretly believe that you can do—even if you’ve never tried it? Although I’ve journeyed down the road of self-publishing (in essence, paying up-front the costs of getting your book between covers and in hard copy form), I still feel that I’ve got the stuff to get my stories published. Groeschel asserts that you should do what you secretly know you can do. He follows up with another assertion that if you don’t do it, if you keep putting it off, you’ll lose the ability to do that which you secretly think you can do. (That’s double-talk for saying, “Put up or shut up.”)

Here’s another author’s perspective on the same idea:



A Dream Deferred
by Langston Hughes
(Langston Hughes homepage)



What happens to a dream deferred?

Does it dry up
like a raisin in the sun?
Or fester like a sore--
And then run?
Does it stink like rotten meat?
Or crust and sugar over--
like a syrupy sweet?
Maybe it just sags
like a heavy load.

Or does it explode?


Once you have found these things, you are better equipped to find your spiritual gifts—those things which God has given you that will help you further the work of the Kingdom. Like other authors, Groeschel has found an assessment tool which will help followers of Jesus discover their gifts (based on a listing developed by the writers of the assessment tool). Here are my gifts based on that tool:

Apostleship – adaptability, with an emphasis on missions and cross-cultural witness.

Shepherding – care, nurture, and guiding.

Leadership – purpose and goal setting.

Knowledge – insight.

Teaching – able to communicate ideas.

Coupling this with the core values that I developed earlier, is it any wonder that the most energized I have been in my career path has been during those times I have been living in ministry? Serving as the pastor of a church is a hand-in-glove fit for me. I am able to use my gifts to address my personal values in an effort to build God’s kingdom. What a rush!

Personality on Parade  

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Click to view my Personality Profile page


This is a chart showing my personality type. I've done these kinds of tests before, but it's always good to review.

Others have the same type as me. Here's a sample:

Famous ENFPs

Real ENFP People
Alicia Silverstone - actress (Clueless), fashion model
Andy Kaufman - American entertainer
Andy Rooney - television writer
Bill Cosby - actor, comedian, activist
Bill Moyers - journalist, commentator
Bob Dylan - singer-songwriter, musician
Bus ter Keaton - silent film comic actor
Carol Burnett - comedian
Charles Dickens - English novelist
Dave Thomas - businessman (Wendy's), philanthropist
Dr. Seuss (Theodor Seuss Geise) - writer, cartoonist
Franz Joseph Haydn - composer
James Dobson - evangelical psychologist
Joseph Campbell - writer, orator
King Jordan - deaf president of Gallaudet University
Lewis Grizzard - humorist
Martin Short - Canadian actor, comedian
Paul Harvey - radio broadcaster
Paul Robeson - actor, athlete, singer, writer, activist
Phil Donahue - TV personality
Regis Philbin - TV personality
Robin Williams - actor
Samuel Clemens (Mark Twain) - writer
Sandra Bullock - actress
Sinbad - actor, comedian
Upton Sinclair - author, investigative journalist
Will Rogers - Comedian

Fictional ENFPs (Characters)
Ariel - The Little Mermaid
Balki - Perfect Strangers
Dr. Doug Ross - ER
Lara Antipova - Doctor Zhivago
Steve Urkel - Family Matters
Will - The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air

[HT: Kevin Bussey]

The Egg on My Face Doesn't Hurt Too Much  

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It's time to make an adjustment to an assessment. A day or two after I posted this, I got an email from the company. Here's a snip from customer representative Brenda R:

I apologize for the inconvenience you have experienced. I have placed an
order for a lid that you will receive within 2-3 weeks. I apologize for the
service center giving you incorrect information. The part could have been
ordered direct at any time. in fact the lid is an inexpensive part and that
is why they most likely did not wish to sell it for such a small amount.

I've received the part and will expect it to work properly for some time.

Journaling Chazown – Core Values  

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[This post is also published at Loom & Wheel Words, a blog where I address more philosophical matters. Occasionally there will be a post that touches on the emphases of both of my personal blogs. If you are interested in the deeper topics that I might explore, you should click on the link to the side and visit my other blog.]

Craig Groeschel insists that your ultimate Life Vision, your Chazown, is tied indelibly to three areas of your life: your Core Values, your Spiritual Gifts, and your past experiences. Today we’ll deal with my response to the issue of Core Values. Core Values are those things that strike you at your heart (your core). They are the ideals that make you stand up and take notice. There are two questions which can help you arrive at what those core values might be.

First, what really angers me? What makes your righteousness get indignated? For me it amounts to three or four things (in no particular order, but even as I think about it to write these things, I begin to see red). Hurting children. When people take advantage of children in a way that God never intended, when children suffer needlessly because of government waste or parental ignorance, my dander flares.

Lying. So often I find that when people play on my good nature and then I find out they aren’t truthful with me, my head aches. Why would someone lie? To me or to anyone, why? I’ve known those people who would tell a lie when the truth would be more expedient, but lying—truthlessness—is their nature. Why?

False Pride. I think perhaps the one thing that makes me froth at the mouth most is this insane—inane—habit that especially believers in Christ exhibit. So many people are ready to offer prayer and advice for others in need, but then there are entire families filled with those who need (they really, really need) prayer or help and refuse to allow the Family of God to bear the burden with them. Who cares if it “looks like” you have a flaw? How presumptuous is that? That we might never ever need a friend.

And then, the second question: What brings me bliss? What shouts to you, “PARTEEE”? What gets your toes to tappin’, your mouth to rappin’ and your whole heart flappin’? Again, I found three standouts in the crowd. Presents. I suppose the reason that I love Christmas so much—aside from the fact that it’s when we celebrate the first coming of the Christ—is that our tradition suggests, no insists, no it outright requires, me to give gifts. I love giving gifts—especially those unexpected gifts that cost little, but mean a mint. One of my favorite things is to catch my beloved blushing bride off-guard with the perfect birthday, anniversary, or Christmas gift. But best yet was the time that I was able to sneak in the china cabinet when she was out of town. I even displayed the chine for when she returned from her trip to Grandma’s.

Laughter. Nothing makes my chest (some would say my head) swell with self-satisfaction than to know that someone enjoyed my company because I made them smile. I first realized this as a freshman in college. Dorm life—that’s the ticket. Getting to know the other men on my hall was always fun. People would roam the hall and if a door was open, it meant social hour was in session in that room. On one of these occasions I finally had to leave a group of friends to go (I don’t know—study or sleep or something) and as I left the room I heard one of the friends still in the room comment, “I just love Benjie, he’s so funny.” I hadn’t even been trying to be funny.

Communication. I suppose you could say that communication is my life. One of the greatest drives that I have as a pastor, author, blogger is that people catch what I’m trying to say. Sometimes I fall short of this goal because I have a tendency to overuse egghead vocabulary when I should be speaking to the third-grader in the crowd. But still, I want him to understand.

Having assessed these questions, I turned to the list that Groeschel provides at http://www.chazown.com/ to line up what I feel are the core values that most closely match my heart’s cry. Here’s what I came up with:



  • Authenticity


  • Creativity


  • Discipleship


  • Faith


  • Godliness


  • Humor


  • Integrity

I think that’s a fair list.

A Milestone  

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Our little ladybug passed her first big milestone this weekend. Here are a couple of pictures.

The Bourne Ultimatum – A Review  

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Against the advice of my brother (“You will probably want to see the first two in order to fully enjoy this one”) the blushing bride and I got sitters for the kids and took in the latest chapter in Bourne movies. I’ll admit it: I’m a sucker for action movies. As a matter of fact if you have fight scenes, chase scenes, and blow things up, I’m there!

Jason Bourne continues to have flashbacks that give him clues to who he really is. The problem is that the clues are extremely vague. Picking up news items that lead him to the explanation of the flashbacks—gleaning names and information along the way—Bourne travels all over the world, encountering new and old faces along the way.

Although I’ve seen snips of both of the earlier Bourne films, I still have a hard time casting Matt Damon in an action role. I must admit that he gives a surprisingly good rendition of an indestructible black-ops assassin who is bent on self-destruction through self-discovery. He is helped along the way by Nicky Parsons (Julia Stiles) and the ever present Pam Landy (Joan Allen). By the end of the movie, Bourne has a new name to claim, and a new outlook on life. The film leaves a wide berth for the possibility of the return of Bourne although it will be necessary for writers to dig deep for plot development.

For your dollar, this is a great action movie with lots of speed and destruction. The fight scenes are fast-paced, the chases high-speed, and there are a fair amount of gun-play and pyrotechnics to satisfy. Go see it on the big screen if it’s still playing in your town.

The Bourne Ultimatum gets 4 thumbs and makes me want to rent The Bourne Identity and The Bourne Supremacy.

The Other Side of 44  

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It's my birthday and after today I'll be on "The Other Side of 44." I’d like to mention a few things that being the “other side of 44” means.


  • On the other side of 44 I must be a good father, loving and just.

  • On the other side of 44 I must be an exemplary husband, always putting my wife first.

  • On the other side of 44 I must have integrity.

This is not a time for me to have a “mid-life crisis”. It is also not the time for you to have one either. We must work together to behave as followers of Jesus Christ—with love, selfless determination to reach a world with the gospel of Jesus Christ. What does this mean for you—being the other side of whatever age your last birthday marked? Write down some thoughts, put them where you can read them every day, and practice them.


When we finally landed in Mulberry Grove after returning to the USA, my blushing bride and I decided we needed to replace the non-working coffeemaker from my bachelor days. So we went shopping. I found something that I didn't know I was looking for--a thermal coffeemaker. This would be great. We wouldn't have to leave the coffee on all the time, and if we forgot to turn it off, it wouldn't burn the house down.


All the thermal models only held 8 cups, and sometimes I need to brew more. And then I found a Mr. Coffee machine that was not too expensive, but had a 10-cup carafe. We put the money down and got it--it was programmable and signaled when the coffee was ready and when it had been sitting long enough to be cold. What a great machine.


About 8 months after the purchase, the lid broke on the carafe. It just fell apart. Of course, it had started splitting earlier. All of this through normal use--usually only one pot a day, sometimes two (if we had guests). Okay, no problem, I'll call the service center--the nearest of which is over an hour away in St. Louis.


First call, "Sorry, that's on back order. Call back in about 8 weeks."

Six weeks later, "Sorry, still on back order."

Another three weeks, "Sorry, still unavailable."

Today (three weeks later, still), "Yes! That's available now, can you hold?"

Five minutes later, "Yes, that's available, but you can't just get the lid, you have to buy the 'craft'."

Me: "So how much is that?"


As it turns out, to replace my broken lid will cost me within ten dollars of the price of the original machine--NEW!


Do not buy this product. I repeat, do not buy this product!

I'm Roots!  

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You know that I love books, so I couldn't resist this quiz. Change an answer here and there and I was everything from A Prayer for Owen Meany to Augustine's Confessions.




You're Roots!

by Alex Haley

While almost everyone agrees that you're brilliant, no one knows quite
how to categorize you. Some say that you're a person with an amazing family tree. Some
say that you're just a darn good storyteller. Others say that you're both and don't much
care where to draw the line. What is known is that your people have been through a great
number of trials and that you are where you are because of hard work. You have nothing to
lose but your chains.



Take the Book Quiz
at the Blue Pyramid.



[HT: Hannah]

Journaling Chazown  

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The article below is the first of a series that I plan to double post here and at Loom & Wheel Words. Enjoy.

I just received a review copy of Craig Groeschel’s Chazown. The title is taken from the Hebrew word translated “dream, revelation, or vision.” In reading the first few pages, the author encouraged the reader to interact with the book in order to discover his own personal vision. In order to give a true reading to the book, I’m taking Groeschel’s advice and have logged on to http://www.chazown.com/ and down-loaded the accompanying journal. I’m also going to try to respond especially to the “You’re the Author” prompts as well as jot down thoughts that inspire me. Some of those thoughts will make their way here.

Groeschel introduces the idea of Chazown by indicating that the vision is one that will lead you to living your life in such a way that there is no question of God’s direction there. He uses the example of Joseph who dreams of being elevated into a place of leadership only to be thrown into a pit, into prison, and then finally to realize the dream. It occurred to me to ask the question “Are there people you know who are showing the spirit of vision spoken about in the book?” Below is one answer that struck me from recent days:

One man who is living and breathing Chazown in his life—before my eyes—is
Steve Hunt. Out of nowhere he contacts me with a glimpse of his vision:
write a story that points people to Jesus.

The journey has moved him from asking the question, “What shall I do to glorify
God?” to writing a novel that is tastefully filled with the gospel message in the hope to reach some who would never read the Bible with the message of salvation.

The writing of the book went smoothly as he wrote each evening after work. Then
with an impression from the Holy Spirit, he sent the manuscript to only one publisher for consideration. The publisher accepted his submission and now the
book is in stores with the second book in the process of editing and a third forming in his mind.

Steve’s statement to me (on more than one occasion): “I’m not looking to make any money; if one person comes to Christ by this effort, I will be happy.”

A Mediocre-ly Good Book  

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Last week I posted a quote from this book. Now I've finished reading the book. You can read my review here or here. Mims has produced a book that has some value--mainly as companion to Rainer & Geiger's Simple Church (which was published three years after this book). In The Kingdom-Focused Church, Mims hits several good points. These points stand out amidst the repetative nature of the book. As one reviewer on Amazon.com put it the book is "Good . . . but nothing new." He even quotes from Mims in saying "It is not likely that I have said much in this book that is new to you" (p. 179).

Don't let this weakness keep you from reading the book, though--it could possibly be the reminder that you need to FOCUS.

Here's a Quote!  

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I'm reading a book on church function by Gene Mims, and he just hit me with a quote that addresses the church's fuss about worship that has been going on for some years now. People have been so caught up in what good worship is that they forget what real worship is. I've even known people who have dissolved long standing friendships over the style of worship that one or the other likes. So here's what Mims has to say in The Kingdom-Focused Church:

"Worship styles are as varied as the cultures and the people that embrace them. The fact that we worship is more important than how we do it. The form of our praise, which changes, is a distant second to the purpose, which doesn't. That purpose is encountering God in worship and being changed by His presence."